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Stop Relying on Others - Only You Can Get Yourself Where You Want to Be

We all need help to move forward, but if you let that turn into a dependency, you won't ever achieve your goals and dreams.


Dennis MartinezDennis Martinez

Unless you're a hermit living in seclusion by choice, you spend a large part of your day interacting with others. Whether it be with co-workers and managers in the office, teachers, and students at school, or your own family at home, our days will contain many moments and opportunities to build and nurture relationships.

These interactions are a normal and healthy part of human behavior. Humans aren't meant to go through their lives alone. Ever since the dawn of civilization, people have stuck together to provide guidance and assistance for any reason. Back then, it was purely for survival - if you didn't travel or cooperate with a group, the chances of death were significantly increased. Nowadays, although we don't have to worry about the same issues that the Neanderthals had to deal with, we still need the help of others in our daily lives.

Regardless of what you're trying to accomplish - a work project, a school assignment, cooking a large dinner - you'll inevitably need the assistance of others to gain progress and move forward. It can be due to something like hitting an arbitrary deadline, making sure a task or project is completed on time, or that your weakness is someone else's strength. No matter the reason, cooperation with others is a beautiful thing and can lead you to greater heights than if you were going alone.

Beware of the dangers ahead

However, this kind of cooperation comes with its own massive pitfall that's rather easy to fall into. The problem with relying on others is that sometimes you can count on them a bit too much. This over-reliance can lead to headaches and hassles down the road:

As you can see, when you rely on others too much, your path can be shifted around without even realizing it. You will no longer be in full control of your destiny and will remain held down by others. The worst part of the situation is that it usually happens without any party realizing it until it's too late. Rarely do people give up their power to others. At best, over-reliance will slow your momentum. At worst, it will completely derail you and your dreams.

Handle your business

So, what can you do to avoid falling into the trap of leaning on others too much? The primary step you can take is to always keep in mind that your ultimate success is all dependent on you. You should never expect someone else to take you all the way to a successful ending to your goals. It's all up to you to put in the necessary work in and lead yourself to where you want to be.

Now, this is not to say that you should always do everything on your own and not seek help from anyone. As mentioned earlier in this article, we all eventually need assistance from others to become better versions of ourselves. Every single person who has achieved tremendous success has done so thanks to others along the way. Bill Gates didn't build Microsoft on his own; Paul Allen was instrumental in helping form the company in its early years. Jeff Bezos is credited as the primary person behind, but in the beginning, he hired a pair of talented programmers to build the site while he focused on the non-technical parts of the business.

The key is to use the help of others sparingly and when necessary if you want to move forward and grow. Don't let others hold your future in their hands, either willingly or unconsciously. Let them go along your journey as long as no one tries to steer everyone on their own path. The only person who knows what you truly want is you, and what you have deep down in your heart and soul is special and unique. When you guide yourself, you'll find what you've always wanted.

Small steps for your Practical Good

If you're ready to start taking your destiny into your own hands while cooperating with others, you can begin by taking a few small steps:

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